Can my wife and I get divorced without appearing in court?

The general answer is yes. Exceptions apply if you have children assets and you disagree is something otherwise YES.

Yes. You can--and you should. Even should you disagree, there are ways to stat out of court--like mediation. Good luck, and good job.

Yes. Go to the self help center of your local family courthouse. They can help you. Best of luck.

Yes, you can generally avoid court appearances if you are in agreement on all issues and you submit all necessary paperwork in a timely manner. At a minimum, one of you will need to file a petition for dissolution, you will need to exchange preliminary declarations of disclosure, and you will both need to sign a stipulated judgment of dissolution of marriage that will be filed with the court. The divorce will not be finalized until the judgment is entered by the court. I strongly suggest that you contact an attorney, mediator, document preparation service, or the self-help center at the courthouse to obtain assistance in drafting the judgment.