Regarding, what do you do when Judge refuses to speak to children?

I do not really see a question? Did the judge say he or she wanted to speak to the child and then didn't? Pro bono for what? In general terms, the judge hears from lawyers, not litigants. See my Legal Guide How to Speak How To Address the Judge http://www.attorneyqna.com/legal-guides/ugc/how-to-address-the-judge You need a lawyer because I do not practice in NJ (I am in Chicago, IL). Check with a lawyer in your locale to discuss more of the details. Good luck to you. Again, check with a lawyer in your locale. NOTE: This answer is made available by the lawyer for educational purposes only. By using or participating in this site you understand that there is no attorney client privilege between you and the attorney responding. This site should not be used as a substitute for competent legal advice from a licensed professional attorney with whom you have established an attorney client relationship and all the privileges that relationship provides. The law changes frequently and varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. The information and materials provided are general in nature, and may not apply to a specific factual or legal circumstance described in the question.