Does a 13 year old in Washington State have the right to refuse to see her father?

Until a court order is changed, ALL parties are expected to voluntarily comply with that order. Period. For the sake of all concerned, professional mediation between the father and child might be helpful in finding agreed ground rules to make father's custodial time more positive and healthy for the child. Best wishes for an outcome you can accept, and please remember to designate a best answer.

Both parents are obligated to try to comply with the parenting plan. My experience is that if the dad comes to get the kids for a visit, and the mom doesn't interfere, but the kids refuse to go, the court won't hold the mom in contempt of court and the police won't force the kids to go. This must be very stressful on the kids. I'd recommend a good family counselor. It’s always best to consult with a good family law attorney to discuss the details before you act. See my Legal Guides on parenting plans and contempt for more information about the legal issues raised by your inquiry. Please keep in mind that although these Legal Guides are often informative, they are no substitute for legal advice from an attorney you have retained for consultation or representation. There are always exceptions to the general rules. Click on my photo. On my home page click on "Contributor Level - View Contributions" or scroll down further and click on "Contribution - Legal Guides." Scroll down the list of my 31 Legal Guides and select the topics relevant to your question. If you like my answer and Legal Guides, please make sure you mark them as “helpful” or “best answer”. © Bruce Clement