How to dismiss a temp restraining order

Your friends are correct, if you fail to appear the RO will be dismissed, however no matter if the RO is granted or dismissed the State is free to file criminal charges at the discretion of the prosecuting authority in your county.

I agree with Mr. Penwell that the State can proceed, and subpoena you to appear. Once the ball has started rolling, you need something to stop it. I suggest that if you do not want this to proceed, that you go to Court and tell this to the judge. If the judge is convinced that you are not being forced to do this, the judge can dismiss it. DISCLAIMER This answer is not intended to, nor does it create an attorney-client relationship. It is not intended to constitute either legal advice or attorney advertising. Rather, given the nature of this website, it is offered solely for information purposes, for you to use as a starting point when speaking with a lawyer licensed to practice law in N.J. It is critical for you to consult with a qualified counsel who is admitted to practice law in NJ with whom information can be shared and assessed under an attorney-client privilege before making any decisions about your case.