I am a russian lady, green card holder. Full time worker and full time student. My husband treated me with extreme cruelty, threatened me with deportation, and once police got into situation - I pressed the charges. I had bruises all over me and scratches on my neck from choking, police took pics of that. After that he got into the jail but hired a lawyer and was released with the bond.
I had to fly from NC to TX since it wasnt safe for me to stay in NC.
He is a federal employee and a vet ,and criminal record can destroy all his life, thats why his family forces me to drop the charges. They go from threats to begging and "lovng me".
We bought a house and he also got me a car (title belongs to the bank), and I need a lawyer to protect my interests and safety. COurt date is nov 18.
It is very unfortunate that you have to go through this situation. You definitely need an attorney to protect your interests. From the immigration prospective there should be no issues in regards to your status. Good luck!
Yes, you do need a lawyer..... If his family is threatening you to drop the charges, then the police and/or DA's office may be interested in hearing about the facts and circumstances about that kind of misconduct too.
I agree that that you need a lawyer, but for some reason this was put into the immigration category incorrectly.
Call the local bar association, or search for a family lawyer.
This is a criminal matter in that the family is attempting to obstruct justice by putting pressure upon you to drop the charges. Obstruction of justice is considered a crime in most states. You should speak with the Prosecutor or police about this matter. However, if you have additional concerns, then you should speak with a criminal attorney, as well.
There is a good chance that the abuse will not stop until he realizes that he cannot get away with it. You may not be the first person who he has beaten up. Perhaps, his last wife or girlfriend was harassed, as well, after being beaten. Good luck.
You should contact the North Carolina Bar Association Attorney Referral Service. You will be directed to a local lawyer who will charge you no more than $50 for a 30 minute consultation.
http://www.ncbar.org/public-resources/find-a-lawyer/
Fred B. Amos IIDUI / DWI AttorneyRaleigh, NCNC licensed ·
Your question raises many potential issues. I will not address the domestic violence issue as it appears that you are choosing not to file for a DVPO, but you should think about this very hard.. You do not mention what the November 18 court date is for, so I do not know if that is part of the criminal action or if one of you has instituted a civil action. Assuming a civil action is yet to be filed, the first issue I see is whether or not you consider yourself separated. All that is required for separation in North Carolina is that one party move out of the marital home with the intent to remain separate and permanently apart. You must be separated for one year before you can file for divorce. If you are indeed now separated from your husband, you may be able to file for post separation support, alimony, and equitable distribution, which is the term we use for the settlement of property, e.g. your house and car. There may also be marital debts to deal with. You do not mention whether or not you have minor children, but if you do, you may also need to file actions for child support and child custody. So, you need to consult with a family law attorney in North Carolina as soon as possible to determine the proper course of action with respect to your marital rights. The criminal may punish him, but it does nothing to help you, so I recommend focusing on your rights and proceed with a civil action for post separation support, alimony, and equitable distribution.
Robert Louis BrownImmigration AttorneyCleveland, OH ·
You need a domestic relations attorney. If your husband is a criminal best he not be employed by the federal government if a clear record is an employment requirement.
