Why does every lawyer that i have asked for legal assistance in a probate matter abandon me or charge (3) times the normal rate?

I wish I knew the answer. It may be your just finding the worst of my profession. Unfortunately, I cannot practice probate matters outside of Michigan. I can only suggest you keep trying to find the right lawyer for your situation. If you appear demanding or desparate, the wrong attorney may try to take advantage of you. Keep in mind that you are not only trying to hire a lawyer, but the lawyer is also deciding whether to "hire" you as a client. The more helpful a client is going to to be and the more reasonable the request and goal of the client, the more comfortable a lawyer will be with the client. Those clients that treat me like a servant and try to dictate how I handle thier case is like telling a builder how to build thier house, instead of just picking out finishes and colors. Sometimes, for the right price, anyone, including lawyers are willing to tolerate this behavior. Hopefully, with this information in mind, the next lawyer you hire will be the right one. Good Luck!

Something you may need to consider, is the fact that you may be asking the attorney to do something that is not allowed (or is discouraged) by the law (probate code and case law) of your jurisdiction. The fact that you have seen so many attorneys, and are still not pleased, seems to mean that you may have unreasonable expectations. I would advise you to speak with someone at your local bar association, or a law school's legal aid department, for a referral, and then communicate to that attorney what the issues are, and listen to their proposed solution. Best of luck to you. I think that communication, both ways, is the key.